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It’s a much more thorough process and places your background and core beliefs of high importance during the matching process.We also make sure that with online dating at e Harmony you can choose your own preferences, sorting through your matches to pick out those who have the essential criteria you may be looking for.Words – Shehnaz Khan I had barely been in the presence of this family friend for 30 seconds, before the sentence she had been bursting to utter had come tumbling out. But when you’ve repeatedly been asked that same question hundreds of times from people who you only see at weddings, parties or funerals, it can be slightly exhausting to coin a valid response. ‘Whenever it’s supposed to happen,’ I half-heartedly replied, fighting to ensure I didn’t roll my eyes or sigh in exasperation.Whether it’s carefully crafted remarks such as ‘My daughter Bushra* was married at 19,’ or ‘My son Imran* is looking for a wife,’ the hints and comments are It’s not that I don’t want to get married, but it’s never been a priority for me and I refuse to put my life on hold to search for something that will happen in its own time.
We know how important it is for single Asians to meet men and women who share common morals, traditions and cultural backgrounds.
But a lot of people suggest I’ll be ‘too old’ to get married once I finish at 28 or 29. The idea that we have ‘sell-by-dates’ is instilled in us from an early age, but it’s a concept that is as ridiculous and untrue as it sounds.
‘Look, you’re almost 25 now, you don’t want to be an old bride,’ and ‘If you get any older, no one is going to want you,’ are two sentences that seem to reach fever-pitch for Asian girls like myself around this age. The modern world of dating doesn’t help matters, with an increasing amount of men on Tinder, and Muslim or South Asian dating apps such as Minder, Muzmatch or Dil Mil, wanting to move at the speed of light.
My friends and I have varying degrees of experience on such apps or in day-to-day life, which include receiving proposals after a week, encountering obsessive stalkers, or witnessing grown men throwing tantrums after a few hours.
‘I’m not talking to you until you tell your mum about us,’ said apparent pro-footballer-before-he-broke-his-leg, Amir* after we’d exchanged approximately four messages. ’ said investment banker Zohaib* after about half an hour of talking.Do not be concerned for women like me who have the choice and who will not be defined by marriage. I’m not sorry if the idea of opposing ‘sell-by dates’ and instead choosing to get degrees, secure our dream jobs, travel the world, build a career, buy our own houses, our own cars and give everything to ourselves, (married or not) isn’t enough for you.